Abused - Don't Give Up!!!

Some guys are true gentlemen while others are real jerks. I am sure that many women can relate to this. So how do we know who is the right one? Clues!!! Sometimes we want to be loved so bad that we get caught up in the moment. We ignore or miss the little clues that they leave. So many couples out there have communication problems or are a victim of abuse. This message is for guys as well because we have females who tend to beat on their men as well. The first time he yells at you, next it’s a shove and then a heavier shove. Then he adds emotional abuse where he or she makes it seem like you are useless. They try to make you believe that you never contributed to their marriage or the life you guys have. They make it seem like you shouldn’t be on the face of this earth because you are so useless. Let me tell you something...You are a child of God, created in his image. You are worth it! You are special and smart! You are beautiful inside and out! Don’t let them brainwash you. Don’t let them threaten you either. There are many places where you can go to get help. They will even provide you with shelter and they will HELP YOU. I know it is scary but there’s nobody out there who can take this step for you. After the emotional abuse comes physical abuse. It is just a downhill battle from there because the beatings just get worse. You probably read articles that say that it is hard for abused women to leave the situation. It’s because you believe that it’s your fault. You believe that he is going to change. You believe that if you only do things right the next time then he won’t be so angry and things will get better. Are you willing to walk around on egg shells for the rest of your life?

If you have kids then you definitely need to make a decision if your partner is not making any attempt to compromise. Understand that you cannot change anybody but yourself. You can pray that God will help heal the wounds and make him or her realize that what he or she is doing is wrong. People need to acknowledge that they are wrong before they can start to work on their behavior. Your children do not need to be raised in such an unhealthy environment. When children are young they tend to mimic those around them. As they grow their behavior is affected by their culture, parents and the elderly around them. Their future depends on the decision that you make. A large number of times, the women is abused to the point where she is hospitalized. What is going to happen to the children then? Don’t let your abuser get you first.

I know it is hard because they tend to apologize after they calm down. He or she tells you how much they love you but this is just a way to keep you where they want you so that they can continue to hurt you. Making you seem helpless makes him or her feel better in some sick way. Most of the abusers have really low self esteem or psychological problems. They need help, professional help. Have you heard these words, “Go ahead and call the police. Ruin my life and see how I will ruin yours or you will never get the kids. That’s ways to scare you. The only way to know more or get wiser is to research and gain more knowledge about what’s available for you in your community. Get help, please.

Life is so precious and we only live once. I know that it seems like the biggest step in your life and you are probably wondering how you are going to make it. Remember, “God will make a way where there seems to be no way.” Joel Olsteen once said, “When you are down to nothing, God is up to something.” Have faith and remember all the times he helped you out of a situation that you thought you would never get out of. Good Luck!!!